Welcome to part 2 of my Chatty Tuesday series! Today’s topic is looking at the connection between makeup and confidence.
Do you wear makeup every day? At the weekends? For special occasions? Or not at all? Regardless of how often we apply a multitude of products to our lovely little faces, it’s all for many different reasons. These include: to cover acne and scarring, to hide redness, to enhance what’s already there or to completely transform how we look. We can be a very judgemental society that sticks its nose into other people’s business and what they like to do with their own bodies. Does this impact our confidence levels too?
As a bit of personal background, I started applying makeup when I was around 15/16 when I was sitting my GCSE exams and sat here at nearly 20 years old – I’ve come a long way. I didn’t start wearing makeup because I felt insecure without it, I just felt excited to start practicing with different products. Did the subconscious confidence it gave me, come at a time when confidence was needed most? I’ve grown up with watching my mum and sister apply it – again, both for different reasons. My sister suffered for years with a severe case of cystic acne, whereas I have inherited my mum’s spot-free skin.
To this day, if I do get the odd spot or blemish – I am so grateful that I have the resources to cover it up if I so wish. But do I have to cover it? Absolutely bloody not. My cheeks are naturally quite red, especially when I’m nervous or feeling warm – so every morning my trusty green concealer wedges its way into my skin to cover it up. This makes me feel more confident.
I would say I have quite a good self-esteem and am happy in my own skin. I adore no makeup days, or days where I wear very little and let my freckles shine through. However, I work full time – so Monday through to Friday I wear a full face of natural makeup and have always done if I’m going to work. I’m still trying to work out if this is in fear of people seeing me without it? I don’t wear an amount where I look like a completely different person without it, but I feel more put together with it on (in my opinion). I enjoy my morning routine and I love makeup – putting a fresh face on sometimes does make me feel a lot better and more awake.
There is quite a heavy correlation between wearing makeup and confidence. You’ll see men and women in your everyday life or on Youtube, that wear makeup as they don’t feel as confident without it. No one has a right to dictate who should feel confident and who shouldn’t. You could believe that the girl in your class or at work shouldn’t feel the need to apply foundation over her already flawless skin – but that’s her choice and nobody else’s. Ultimately, makeup is a choice.
But there is a science behind it known as the “lipstick effect”.
“This “lipstick effect” is a common psychological phenomenon that boosts the confidence of a woman when she wears makeup and feels physically more attractive. It helps women to have the feelings of self-esteem, personality, and attitude. An important thing is a boost or improvement in the self-esteem helps to boost the cognitive abilities, the Huffington Post reported.”
I think the correlation between confidence and makeup is so interesting. A product which is a potion of different ingredients that we smooth and draw on our skin, has the ability to make us feel so different. I know that different makeup looks affect my attitude, half the time unintentionally. A quick splash of concealer and mascara makes me feel cute and youthful – whereas a smokey winged eyeliner look makes me feel like a boss ass bitch. It’s incredibly important however, to ensure we feel still feel confident without it.
It’s so much easier said than done, and I wish everyone had positive influences surrounding them to help incorporate this. I’m currently sat fresh out the shower with no makeup and my hair in a turbie towel with my partner playing games next to me. I am eternally grateful he is such a wonderful man and how he always calls me beautiful – oddly enough at the times I feel it least. Many people don’t feel confident to go makeup-less around their family, friends, partner etc. 3 things I think are important to remember:
- Your family, friends and partner love you for YOU. It sounds so cliche, but their opinions of you shouldn’t change whether you have makeup on or not. Your ability to be a good person will be what remains with people, not whether your eyeshadow is effortlessly blended.
- Makeup should be enjoyable and not a chore. If makeup makes you happy – you go for it! But if it’s making you unhappy, stop to take some time out and re-evaluate who you’re really doing it for. If it’s not yourself, it most definitely should be.
- Focus on what else makes you feel confident other than makeup and incorporate just as much time into that. Is it your hair? Clothing style? Your contagious laugh?
I want to set my self a challenge soon and go makeup-less for an entire working week. I am more than happy to trot around at the weekend without it, but the thought of going bare in front of work colleagues makes my hairs stands up a bit. But I don’t want it to. So I want to make a conscious effort to change my thought process and give a little bit back to myself.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on the correlation between makeup and confidence – let’s have a discussion in the comments! Thank you to Millie from https://msblife.com/ who tweeted me about this topic!
Until next time,