Life has a classic way of throwing its curveballs into the mix, which we can choose to run with or kick in the opposite direction. We all cope at our own paces with our own ways and methods. I thought it would be interesting to sit and reflect on 5 things that have been harder than I thought they would be.
It’s a beautiful thing to celebrate our successes and achievements, but I am guilty of seeing the glass half empty rather than half full sometimes. Most things don’t happen the way you had planned them to and it can leave us feeling quite disappointed. I’m writing this post to share what I’ve personally found quite difficult, some may seem quite trivial and be a breeze for some – but if you can relate to any of these like me, then I hope you feel less alone!
Making and maintaining friendships post-education
Whilst at school, I had (what I thought) was a solid group of friends, with some being friends for life. However, after the novelty of clubbing soon wore off, I soon realised that nights out was the reason we still socialised. I’d say within the space of a year and a half I lost contact with the majority of my friends and found myself feeling really lonely.
It’s SO difficult to make adult friendships! I’ve had my fair share of jobs and in my most recent position, I made some close friends, but have since moved town and left that job so it’s hard to stay as in touch. I didn’t go to university either so I’ve been outside of the typical social circle most people my age are now in. I wish online friends didn’t live so far away as I’m sure I’d be a social butterfly if we all lived close together. I’ve not found a club or group that interests me yet, so meeting likeminded people outside of work is super difficult for me.
I have such bittersweet feelings about driving. Having my own car and driving about has been a dream since I was little, so when I felt ready financially and mentally – I started my lessons at the end of 2018. It’s the start of 2020 and I’ve failed 3 driving tests, but have also brought my first car so it’s swings and roundabouts. I had hoped I could have been one of those people that passed the first time, but my god it’s harder than I thought! I hate the nerves I get during tests that make me act in a way I don’t normally, so coming to terms with the fact it’s harder than I thought is quite difficult. It’ll be worth it in the end!
Keeping up with blogging
Considering this is my first post of 2020, I think this says it all! Blogging and creative ruts seem pretty common, so I don’t feel too left out with this one. I definitely agree with the point that there’s no point in forcing yourself to write something just for the sake of it, because if you’ve not enjoyed writing it, who will enjoy reading it?
I’m still not sure if a blogging schedule will be the way to go for me, nor setting a specific niche for myself. I like just being a chatty chilled blogger happy to talk about anything.
Appreciating the good when life isn’t always working in your favour
I do find it really difficult to be a positive Polly sometimes. Obviously this is changeable, but one of my terrible traits is seeing all the negatives rather than the positives. I do want to consciously work on this because I feel like my mindset is so unhealthy at times when it could be so much better.
There’s always something to be grateful for, to smile about and to look forward to – so when life gets tough, I want to be tougher.
Finding a hobby and sticking to it
I love trying my hand at lots of different things and I think it’s great to have so many hobbies, but I never quite stick to one, if that makes sense? I read, scrapbook, go for walks, write, watch YouTube, clean (I love cleaning so I’m calling it a perfectly acceptable hobby), play around with my makeup and nails and the list does go on. I just have a tendency to get bored quite quickly, so I feel like finding the hobby for me would be fab.
So there we have 5 things that have been more difficult than I anticipated! Adulthood is a scary but awesome ride and with that comes its ups and downs and I’m here to share both sides. I’d be really interested to hear if you too have found a certain something more difficult than you thought.
“I haven’t failed, I’ve just found 10,000 ways it does not work. – Thomas Edison“
Until next time,