Looking for ways to reignite the fireworks of a long-term relationship does not necessarily mean you are looking for relationship guidance or are at breaking point with your partner. When you spend a prolonged period of time with someone in particular, it’s easy to fall victim to routine and feel confused on how to spice things up again. Life has its ways of wedging itself into relationships like the third wheel nobody asked for. One day you might find yourself asking “what changed along the way?” or “why aren’t things the same as they were at the start?“.
These are completely normal and rational feelings to have. People grow every day, but growing alongside somebody else means putting in double the hard work. Romantic relationships are one of life’s most beautiful happenings when you are with the right person.
Think of relationships like a new car; they’re super exciting and shiny on the day you pick it up, but over the years you may notice the odd thing isn’t working like it should, so you take it to the garage to get fixed. This fixture may have been faulty and didn’t fix your car like you thought it would, or maybe it set you driving off into the sunset like the good old days. As long as you are willing to put the time and effort in to make it work, you will often be rewarded with the results.
So if you’ve been with your partner for what you would consider a long time, but things are feeling a bit flat, here are 5 ways to keep your relationship alive.
This could be about what you want for dinner, or about serious future plans. Signs of a healthy relationship fall widely down to how you communicate. Without expressing your thoughts and feelings with each other, you are likely to assume what the other is thinking which can cause some really unnecessary feuds. Communicating doesn’t just have to be verbal, it can be through body language too. Sometimes giving your partner a hug can convey just as much meaning as words would. These 8 ways to communicate easily act as a great guide!
Make time for each other, no matter how hard it may be
You may have children or pets to look after that consume a lot of time, or a career that demands a lot of attention. Nonetheless, there should always be at least some time in the day to share with your partner. It doesn’t have to be a whole evening dedicated to each other, but sharing time over dinner to just talk about anything and everything ensures you’re not a stranger to your own partner. Time is such a simple thing to give to someone and if they don’t feel wanted, it can create the foundations for tension.
Have fun as a couple!
I somewhat believe there’s more fun to be had in relationships that have withstood the test of time. You know each other like the back of your own hands, what your interests are, what excites you most. There is beauty in simplicity, so that could mean a trip to the cinema once a month, or action-packed weekends away. You may tick a lot of activities off in the first year of a relationship as you are going on dates and getting to know each other. This doesn’t have to stop as your relationship progresses. There are date ideas for all weathers and budgets out there.
Give each other space, but always be there
This is a super important one, especially if you live together. It can be easy to tread on toes and become frustrated if you don’t have the space to be your own person. This isn’t to say you don’t want your partner around, but you will always be your own person with your own lifestyle and hobbies. Knowing your significant other is just a call or room away is great. It’s never a bad thing to self-indulge and be you.
Let them know how much you appreciate them
Often our partners are the glue that holds us together and having been around them for so long, we can lose sight as to how much they do for us. Whether that be physical or emotional support, simply tell them what they mean to you, I doubt it will not be appreciated. It also lets them know their actions aren’t going unnoticed. Some of us struggle with words, so a little note in their work lunch would be just perfect!
There are plenty of ways to keep a long term relationship afloat, but I hope this list has given you some methods you can start today! So many people stay together for years and years, and I think there’s something so wonderful about that inseparable bond that withstands life’s trials and tribulations. Little changes in your love life can make a world of difference. With a true bond, it is always worth it.
“The best thing to hold onto in life is each other.” – Audrey Hepburn
Until next time,