5 Ways to Keep Your Long Term Relationship Alive

Looking for ways to reignite the fireworks of a long-term relationship does not necessarily mean you are looking for relationship guidance or are at breaking point with your partner. When you spend a prolonged period of time with someone in particular, it’s easy to fall victim to routine and feel confused on how to spice things up again. Life has its ways of wedging itself into relationships like the third wheel nobody asked for. One day you might find yourself asking “what changed along the way?” or “why aren’t things the same as they were at the start?“.

These are completely normal and rational feelings to have. People grow every day, but growing alongside somebody else means putting in double the hard work. Romantic relationships are one of life’s most beautiful happenings when you are with the right person.

Think of relationships like a new car; they’re super exciting and shiny on the day you pick it up, but over the years you may notice the odd thing isn’t working like it should, so you take it to the garage to get fixed. This fixture may have been faulty and didn’t fix your car like you thought it would, or maybe it set you driving off into the sunset like the good old days. As long as you are willing to put the time and effort in to make it work, you will often be rewarded with the results.

So if you’ve been with your partner for what you would consider a long time, but things are feeling a bit flat, here are 5 ways to keep your relationship alive.


Always communicate

This could be about what you want for dinner, or about serious future plans. Signs of a healthy relationship fall widely down to how you communicate. Without expressing your thoughts and feelings with each other, you are likely to assume what the other is thinking which can cause some really unnecessary feuds. Communicating doesn’t just have to be verbal, it can be through body language too. Sometimes giving your partner a hug can convey just as much meaning as words would. These 8 ways to communicate easily act as a great guide!

Make time for each other, no matter how hard it may be

You may have children or pets to look after that consume a lot of time, or a career that demands a lot of attention. Nonetheless, there should always be at least some time in the day to share with your partner. It doesn’t have to be a whole evening dedicated to each other, but sharing time over dinner to just talk about anything and everything ensures you’re not a stranger to your own partner. Time is such a simple thing to give to someone and if they don’t feel wanted, it can create the foundations for tension.

Have fun as a couple!

I somewhat believe there’s more fun to be had in relationships that have withstood the test of time. You know each other like the back of your own hands, what your interests are, what excites you most. There is beauty in simplicity, so that could mean a trip to the cinema once a month, or action-packed weekends away. You may tick a lot of activities off in the first year of a relationship as you are going on dates and getting to know each other. This doesn’t have to stop as your relationship progresses. There are date ideas for all weathers and budgets out there.

Give each other space, but always be there

This is a super important one, especially if you live together. It can be easy to tread on toes and become frustrated if you don’t have the space to be your own person. This isn’t to say you don’t want your partner around, but you will always be your own person with your own lifestyle and hobbies. Knowing your significant other is just a call or room away is great. It’s never a bad thing to self-indulge and be you.

Let them know how much you appreciate them

Often our partners are the glue that holds us together and having been around them for so long, we can lose sight as to how much they do for us. Whether that be physical or emotional support, simply tell them what they mean to you, I doubt it will not be appreciated. It also lets them know their actions aren’t going unnoticed. Some of us struggle with words, so a little note in their work lunch would be just perfect!

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There are plenty of ways to keep a long term relationship afloat, but I hope this list has given you some methods you can start today! So many people stay together for years and years, and I think there’s something so wonderful about that inseparable bond that withstands life’s trials and tribulations. Little changes in your love life can make a world of difference. With a true bond, it is always worth it.

“The best thing to hold onto in life is each other.” – Audrey Hepburn

Until next time,

Emily x



16 thoughts on “5 Ways to Keep Your Long Term Relationship Alive

  1. Paige Eades says:

    This is such a great post; and I think every relationship is different. Me and my boyfriend have been locked down together since the start and because we haven’t lived together before; we’ve had to adapt to getting used to each other all the time and habits we didn’t know each other had; despite knowing each other almost 2 years 😂 Some great ideas at keeping long term relationships alive!

    Paige // Paige Eades


    • emilygabriellax says:

      Oh wow sounds like you were kinda thrown into it!😂 we’ve lived together about 1.5 years so I’d have dreaded being apart, I think living together can make or break people but most of the time it’s a great adventure! Thanks so much for reading X


  2. Millie says:

    YES actually loved this post! I think that one about giving each other space but still being there is really important. Thank you for sharing your smartness and defo gonna continue coming to you with all my problems xoxo


  3. The Queensights says:

    I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years and I agree with all of these. It’s also important to not be swayed by other potential lovers just because people in long term relationship feel like they have lost the spark. It’s really about the commitment. ♥️


    • emilygabriellax says:

      That’s a really great point to make! It would be really sad to throw something away rather than try to fix it. Thank you for reading!


  4. Gemma Jayne says:

    Lovely post! I have been with my partner for 4 and a half years and he has been living with me and my parents whilst we save for the last 3 years. Therefore, I do find it hard sharing what was “my bedroom” and home space because there is no where for me to get away. However, I have loved living with my partner and these are great tips!


    • emilygabriellax says:

      I definitely relate to that somewhat! But at least you’ve managed to save and test living together before find a place of your own. I moved in with my partner originally until we both moved to my parents’. It’s hard but worth it! Thanks so much for reading and commenting x


  5. Helen says:

    Really great points. Been with my partner 11 years, lived together for 9 years. Definitely important to communicate and give each other space. But making time to just hang out and do fun stuff is definitely important.


    • Natasha Evans says:

      These are really great points! It’s weird as I lived in the same flat as my boyfriend during first year of uni and that’s how we met but now in second year we live apart so we’ve done things in reverse! Definitely key to communicate well and remind each other how much we appreciate the other!
      Tash – https://www.agirlwithview.co.uk


      • emilygabriellax says:

        Life always has its funny ways of working itself out! I couldn’t agree more, thank you for reading Natasha! 🙂


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